On my way to the shops today …. some guy i never met before and who probably thinks he’s some sex symbol says ‘hi sweety’ in a sexy wannabe voice. He was obviously very disappointed/annoyed when i completely ignored him and walked by. I so felt like saying something back in attempt to make him feel small like a worm, but didn’t have time to get even more annoyed.
What is WRONG with these kind of people anyway? Do they actually think they’d go anywhere by saying ‘hi’ to random girls they see on the street (for ..let’s say .. approx 25 to 40 seconds, depending on the street) ?? Or they must be really bored, and try to find a way to entertain themselves?
From a psychological point of view, they probably just seek for some kind of attention. Whenever i see a person who acts like that, i honestly think they might be one of those people who lacked (and probably still does) parental affection, had a distorted life, being involved in all kinds of cheap relationships and being dumped several times because he couldn’t afford to financially support his girlfriend any more, or she simply got bored of him. And now he just needs female attention, so he can somehow reassure himself that ‘he’s still got it’.I might be wrong. Some might argue that the guy was simply bored and actually thought I’d say hi back. But then again, why does he seek attention just to get rid of his boredom? He could do several other things (like pretending to send texts, when he’s actually playing cheap football games on his phone).
Anyhow, i just found that annoying and disturbing. Not generalizing men though! I don’t want to give the impression that I’m the kind of person who thinks men are scum. Everyone is different…
That kind of thing is commonplace in Italy. An English girl i knew in Italy went out in a very short dress, and was pursued by a total stranger, who kept asking for her phone number and saying he could be her boyfriend. She politely replied that she already had one but to no avail, he chased her for some time. Though the Italian method, while it must be annoying (i had a huge gay guy pester me for 15 minutes in a cathedral of all places, so can easily imagine how annoying women might find these crude wooings) is fairly amiable at least; in England there seems something thuggish and nasty about it.
Well one of the (verbal) replies I got to this comment the other day was that it doesn’t sound too bad; the guy probably just wanted to get to know me, because ‘how else would he get to know you unless he says hi, and what other chance does he have?’ But I honestly don’t think that this kind of approach would ever have any good outcomes. I mean, it’s highly improbable that a woman who respects herself enough would be at all flattered by a man chasing her on the street, asking to be her boyfriend. It would probably just frighten her. Plus, even if the man does want to simply ‘get to know’ the woman, what other reasons would he have, other than sexual ones? (i hope this thought doesn’t scare you too much thinking back about the homosexual trying to chat you up in the holy place)
And I would probably have to agree with you on it being a common thing in Italy. I have never been there myself, but do I know a few Italian men who find that very normal and amusing.